Archive for April, 2007

So, where ARE they?!!!

On Friday’s Oprah, which I didn’t see, but read about in the newspaper, it was reported by Men’s Health Magazine, that my city is the #1 city in America for finding single men over 35.  Really? Where are they all hiding?  Not that I’m saying that there aren’t a lot of men here, because there are.  I’m just not sure all of these men are the type you’d want to date.  Or maybe I’m not their type?  Either way, it’s not like women here are beating men off with a stick.  Many of my single friends who live here have a really hard time finding dates.

And now that it’s been on Oprah you know I ‘m going to have to fight off a bunch of newcomers who suddenly decide to move to my city in search of men.  Great, more competition.  Like it hasn’t been hard enough to find a good guy to date.

Apparently the whole show had a lot of good ideas for ways to meet men.  I saw the following clip and I think that Steve Santagati makes some really good points.

I’m not sure why Gayle and the other woman on the show are so resistant to what he’s saying.  I think I may take a few of his tips to heart — especially the one about looking your best whenever you go out.  Not that you have to be all dolled up all the time, but just looking presentable.

Because, truly, you never know who you might meet when you’re out and about!  The One is somewhere just around the corner, I’m sure.


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As I wrote a few posts ago, I’m in the mood to redecorate my duplex. I moved in in October, and since it was the beginning of the school year, I really didn’t have much time to do anything other than clean and unpack. I do have a few cool decorations scattered about, but I haven’t had a whole lot of time to really decorate it and give this new place a sense of personality all its own. Most of the things I have in it are from previous places, which is fine, because they’re nice items, but whenever I move, I like to add some new touches. Plus, all of this stuff was in storage for more than 2 years, and it needs some updating.

So, I’ve decided (I think) to change the color scheme of the bedroom. In my previous place, I had this whole blue and white thing going on. Very tranquil, very soothing… but now, very boring. It just so happened that this duplex had blue walls in the bedroom, which seemed perfect for the decor. No need to change anything right way, which was great. Now that I’ve been here for 6 months, I’m feeling the need to spruce up the bedroom (and the bathroom and the kitchen/dinette, but that’s another matter for another blog entry down the road).

The thing is, I’m ready for a change — a major change. Sure, blue and white are nice and all, but I’m getting sick of it. And yes, the painting that I commissioned from one of my friends who’s an amazing artist goes so nicely in the room.


The picture quality here isn’t the best. The walls are blue (with a grayish tinge) and the painting is actually really, really vivid. I don’t think that comes across very well in this picture from my cell phone, but you get the basic idea.

So, one of the most difficult parts about completely changing the colors in the room is that my beautiful azul painting will no longer fit in. But, maybe it’s ok to put it away for a while. Or maybe I can find another place to put it in the house.

Anyway, I’m tired of the same old thing that I’ve had for quite a while, so I decided to start looking for some really cool duvets. The only quest more difficult is perhaps the one for the Holy Grail! I checked every major retailer online, and a few obscure ones, only to see the same tired duvets — ugly florals, boring solids, and geometrics that would look more at home in a bachelor pad. Then I decided to check out one of my all-time favorite stores — Z Gallerie. I’ve purchased many of my decorative pieces from them. (Back when I had money, aka my “Yahoo Year,” I actually furnished most of my apartment from them. Which worked out well until I moved to San Francisco and discovered that my beautiful couch and “overstuffed” chair wouldn’t fit through the doorframe. Damn those old Edwardian buildings and their small doors! But, that was a long time and many moves ago, so I’m over it…can’t you tell?!)

True to form, Z Gallerie had the perfect duvet! It’s bold and distinct. It makes a statement. It’s not boring by any means. And I love it.


This duvet would be a complete departure from my current bedroom, which I think I’m in the mood for. The fabric is silk, which I know may be difficult to maintain, but hey, I’ve had a white duvet for years, with not one spill. I never eat in bed, and unfortunately, the only activity that’s been going on there in recent months is sleeping, so I think the silk will be fairly safe. I love the middle-eastern vibe that the bed has. I don’t love all of the pillows they show with it, but I definitely think it could work. (Yesterday I went to Z Gallerie to see the duvet in person, and it was every bit as beautiful as it seems in the photo).

I’m not sure what colors I’ll paint the walls yet. Joy has been a tremendous help in the color department. She loves bold color on walls as much as I do, and she took the time to photoshop a few different wall colors and send me the pictures. It all depends on how bold I want to make the bedroom. First I was thinking of going with a chocolate brown color. Then I thought maybe some sort of bold pink. But then I realized that I might get really tired of that, so I am now leaning toward more of a cafe au lait color. I’ll have to make my way to the paint store and put a few colors up on the wall and see what I could live with.

All of my friends have really liked the duvet. ChrissyG thinks that it will energize me. DRMK loves the look. BFF thinks it’s fabulous.

My mom, whose decorating taste I completely respect and admire, didn’t. She said she thought I’d get tired of it quickly. But when I pointed out that I had a white duvet for 4 years, she agreed that maybe it was time to make more of a bold statement. “It’s your decision,” she said. Not exactly a ringing endorsement, but not a complete “yuck, it’s terrible” either.

One of the reasons that I want to get her buy-in is that I am hoping my parents will buy me the duvet set for my birthday in July. Being a poor teacher, I have to rely on the generosity of my parents for many of my major purchases. Too bad I don’t have birthdays twice a year.

So, dear blog readers, let me know your opinion. Keep in mind that I’m single, (and sometimes saucy), and I’d like my bedroom to reflect my personality.  If you have any suggestions for other duvets that I might like, put your ideas in the comments.

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The Guilt List

My college alma mater says, “any English major who hasn’t read most of these has no right to joy.” I’m bolding the ones I’ve read.

Achebe, Chinua. Things Fall Apart
Aeschylus. The Oresteia
Allende, Isabelle. The House of the Spirits
Anaya, Rudolfo. Bless Me, Ultima
Aristotle. Poetics

Atwood, Margaret. Surfacing
Austen, Jane. Pride and Prejudice, Emma
Barrio, Raymond. The Plum Plum Pickers
Barth, John. The Sot Weed Factor
Baudelaire, Charles. Flowers of Evil
Bellow, Saul. The Adventures of Augie March
Boccaccio, Giovanni. The Decameron
Boswell, James. Life of Johnson
Bradbury, Ray. Dandelion Wine
Bronte, Charlotte. Jane Eyre
Bronte, Emily. Wuthering Heights

Brooks, Gwendolyn. Blacks
Buck, Pearl. The Good Earth
Bulgakov, Mikhail. The Master and Margarita
Cather, Willa. My Antonia, Death Comes for the Archbishop
Chaucer, Geoffrey. The Canterbury Tales
Chekhov, Anton. The Lady with a Dog (and plays)
Chopin, Kate. The Awakening
Conrad, Joseph. Heart of Darkness
, Lord Jim
Cooper, James Fennimore. Leatherstocking Tales
Crane, Stephen. Red Badge of Courage
Dante, Alighieri. The Divine Comedy
Defoe, Daniel. Robinson Crusoe, Moll Flanders

Dickens, Charles. Hard Times, Bleak House, David Copperfield
Doestoevski, F. M. The Brothers Karamazov, Crime and Punishment
Doyle, Arthur Conan. The Adventures of Sherlock Holmes
Dreiser, Theodore. Sister Carrie
Duras, Marguerite. The Lover
Eliot, George. The Mill on the Floss, Middlemarch
Eliot, T. S. The Wasteland, The Four Quartets
Ellison, Ralph. The Invisible Man
Erdrich, Louise. The Beet Queen
Euripides. The Bacchae, Hippolytus
Faulkner, William. Absalom, Absalom!, The Hamlet, Light in August
Fielding, Henry. Joseph Andrews, Tom Jones
Fitzgerald, F. Scott. The Great Gatsby
Flaubert, Gustave. Madame Bovary

Ford, Ford Maddox. The Good Soldier
Fuentes, Carlos. The Death of Artemio Cruz, Where the Air is Clear
Garland, Hamlin. Main Travelled Roads
Ginsberg, Allen. Howl
Goethe. Faust

Grahame, Kenneth. Wind in the Willows
Hammett, Dashiell. The Maltese Falcon, The Glass Key
Hardy, Thomas. Return of the Native, Tess of the D’Urbervilles
Hawthorne, Nathaniel.
The Scarlet Letter, The Blithedale Romance
Hemingway, Ernest. Farewell to Arms, The Sun Also Rises
Homer, The Iliad, The Odyssey

Howells, William Dean. A Hazard of New Fortunes
Hughes, Langston. Selected Poems
Hurston, Zora Neale. Their Eyes Were Watching God

James, Henry. Turn of the Screw, Ambassadors, The Portrait of a Lady
Johnson, Charles. The Oxherding Tale
Joyce, James. Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man, Dubliners, Ulysses
Kafka, Franz. The Trial
Kennedy, William. Ironweed
Kerouac, Jack. On the Road
Keys, Daniel. Flowers for Algernon

Kinnell, Galway. The Past
Kingston, Maxine Hong. China Men
Lawrence, D. H. Sons and Lovers, Women in Love
Lee, Harper. To Kill a Mockingbird

Lewis, C. S. The Allegory of Love, Experiment in Criticism
London, Jack. The Sea Wolf
Lorde, Audre. The Black Unicorn
Lowell, Robert. Life Studies
Machiavelli, The Prince
Mahfouz, Naguib. Midaq Alley
Mailer, Norman. The Naked and the Dead
Mann, Thomas. Death in Venice, The Magic Mountain
Marlow, Christopher. Dr. Faustus
Marquez, Gabriel Garcia. A Hundred Years of Solitude, Chronicle of a Death Foretold
McCullers, Carson. Short Stories
Melville, Herman. Moby Dick, Typee
Jean de Meun. The Romance of the Rose
Middleton, Thomas. The Changeling
Miller, Arthur. Death of a Salesman, The Crucible, All My Sons
Milton, John. Paradise Lost
Momeday, N. Scott. The Way to Rainy Mountain
Morrison, Toni. The Song of Soloman
Munro, Alice K. Selected Stories
Nabokov, Vladimir. Lolita
Nafisi, Azar. Reading Lolita in Tehran.

Norris, Frank. McTeague
O’Connor, Flannery. Wise Blood, A Good Man is Hard to Find
Orwell, George. 1984, Animal Farm
Ovid. Metamorphosis

Paterson, Katherine. Jacob Have I Loved
Pynchon, Thomas. The Crying of Lot 49
Plato, The Republic
Proust, Marcel. Swann’s Way
Rich, Adrienne. Selected Poems
Richardson, Samuel. Pamela or Clarissa
Roethke, Theodore. Words for the Wind
Rushdie, Salman. Midnight’s Children, The Satanic Verses
Salinger, J. D. The Catcher in the Rye
Saroyan, William. The Human Comedy

Scott, Walter. Waverley, Ivanhoe
Shakespeare, William. The Major Plays
Shaw, George Bernard. Mrs. Warren’s Profession
Shelley, Mary. Frankenstein
Silko, Leslie Marmon. Ceremony
Silone, Ignazio. Bread and Wine
Sophocles. Oedipus the King, Antigone
Spenser, Edmund. The Faerie Queen
Steinbeck, John. The Grapes of Wrath, East of Eden, Cannery Row
Stegner, Wallace. Angle of Repose
Stendhal (Henri Beyle). The Red and the Black
Sterne, Laurence. Tristram Shandy
Stevens, Wallace. The Palm at the End of the Mind
Styron, William. Lie Down in Darkness
Swift, Jonathan. Gulliver’s Travels
Thackeray, William Makepace. Vanity Fair
Thurber, James. The Thurber Carnival
Tolstoy, Leo. War and Peace, Anna Karenina
Trollope, Anthony. The Way We Live Now
Twain, Mark. Huckleberry Finn
Updike, John. Rabbit, Run; Trust Me
Virgil. The Aeneid
Wallant, Edward Lewis. The Pawnbroker
West, Nathaniel. The Day of the Locust
Wharton. Edith. The House of Mirth, The Age of Innocence
White, E. B. Charlotte’s Web
Whitman, Walt. Leaves of Grass
Wilde, Oscar. The Importance of Being Ernest

Wolfe, Thomas. Look Homeward Angel
Wolfe, Tom. Bonfire of the Vanities
Woolf, Virginia. To the Lighthouse, Mrs. Dalloway

Wright, A. T. Islandia
Wright, Richard. Black Boy, Native Son
Yeats, William Butler. Collected Poems

Yourcenar, Marguerite. Memoirs of Hadrian
Also, Genesis, Psalms, Job, Ecclesiastes, The Bhagavad Gita, Qu’ran, Song of Roland, and Sir Gawain and the Green Knight


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Which ones have YOU read?

I saw this list of 100 books on another blog. You’re supposed to BOLD the books you have read. I’m italicizing the ones that I should’ve read as an English major in college, but I only skimmed. This list is really eclectic; a mix of literary classics and best sellers. Here goes:

1. The Da Vinci Code (Dan Brown)
2. Pride and Prejudice (Jane Austen)
3. To Kill A Mockingbird (Harper Lee)
4. Gone With The Wind (Margaret Mitchell)
5. The Lord of the Rings: Return of the King (Tolkien)
6. The Lord of the Rings: Fellowship of the Ring (Tolkien)
7. The Lord of the Rings: Two Towers (Tolkien)
8. Anne of Green Gables (L.M. Montgomery)
9. Outlander (Diana Gabaldon)
10. A Fine Balance (Rohinton Mistry)
11. Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire (Rowling)
12. Angels and Demons (Dan Brown)

13. Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix (Rowling)
14. A Prayer for Owen Meany (John Irving)

15. Memoirs of a Geisha (Arthur Golden)
16. Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone (Rowling)

17. Fall on Your Knees (Ann-Marie MacDonald)
18. The Stand (Stephen King)
19. Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban (Rowling)
20. Jane Eyre (Charlotte Bronte)

21. The Hobbit (Tolkien)
22. The Catcher in the Rye (J.D. Salinger)
23. Little Women (Louisa May Alcott)
24. The Lovely Bones (Alice Sebold)

25. Life of Pi (Yann Martel)
26. The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy (Douglas Adams)
27. Wuthering Heights (Emily Bronte)
28. The Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe (C. S. Lewis)
29. East of Eden (John Steinbeck)
30. Tuesdays with Morrie (Mitch Albom)

31. Dune (Frank Herbert)
32. The Notebook (Nicholas Sparks)
33. Atlas Shrugged (Ayn Rand)
34. 1984 (Orwell)
35. The Mists of Avalon (Marion Zimmer Bradley)
36. The Pillars of the Earth (Ken Follett)
37. The Power of One (Bryce Courtenay)
38. I Know This Much is True (Wally Lamb)

39. The Red Tent (Anita Diamant) – got this on my shelf to read
40. The Alchemist (Paulo Coelho)
41. The Clan of the Cave Bear (Jean M. Auel)
42. The Kite Runner (Khaled Hosseini)

43. Confessions of a Shopaholic (Sophie Kinsella)
44. The Five People You Meet In Heaven (Mitch Albom)
45. Bible (only a few parts, not at all in it’s entirety)
46. Anna Karenina (Tolstoy)
47. The Count of Monte Cristo (Alexandre Dumas)
48. Angela’s Ashes (Frank McCourt)
49. The Grapes of Wrath (John Steinbeck)
50. She’s Come Undone (Wally Lamb)

51. The Poisonwood Bible (Barbara Kingsolver)
52. A Tale of Two Cities (Dickens)

53. Ender’s Game (Orson Scott Card)
54. Great Expectations (Dickens)
55. The Great Gatsby (Fitzgerald)
56. The Stone Angel (Margaret Laurence)
57. Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets (Rowling)
58. The Thorn Birds (Colleen McCullough)
59. The Handmaid’s Tale (Margaret Atwood)
60. The Time Traveller’s Wife (Audrey Niffenegger)
61. Crime and Punishment (Fyodor Dostoyevsky)
62. The Fountainhead (Ayn Rand)
63. War and Peace (Tolstoy)
64. Interview With The Vampire (Anne Rice)
65. Fifth Business (Robertson Davis)
66. One Hundred Years Of Solitude (Gabriel Garcia Marquez)
67. The Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants (Ann Brashares)

68. Catch-22 (Joseph Heller)
69. Les Miserables (Hugo)
70. The Little Prince (Antoine de Saint-Exupery)
71. Bridget Jones’ Diary (Fielding)
72. Love in the Time of Cholera (Marquez)
73. Shogun (James Clavell)
74. The English Patient (Michael Ondaatje)
75. The Secret Garden (Frances Hodgson Burnett)
76. The Summer Tree (Guy Gavriel Kay)
77. A Tree Grows in Brooklyn (Betty Smith)
78. The World According To Garp (John Irving)
79. The Diviners (Margaret Laurence)
80. Charlotte’s Web (E.B. White)
81. Not Wanted On The Voyage (Timothy Findley)
82. Of Mice And Men (Steinbeck)
83. Rebecca (Daphne DuMaurier)

84. Wizard’s First Rule (Terry Goodkind)
85. Emma (Jane Austen)
86. Watership Down (Richard Adams)
87. Brave New World (Aldous Huxley)
88. The Stone Diaries (Carol Shields)
89. Blindness (Jose Saramago)
90. Kane and Abel (Jeffrey Archer)
91. In The Skin Of A Lion (Ondaatje)
92. Lord of the Flies (Golding)
93. The Good Earth (Pearl S. Buck)
94. The Secret Life of Bees (Sue Monk Kidd)

95. The Bourne Identity (Robert Ludlum)
96. The Outsiders (S.E. Hinton)
97. White Oleander (Janet Fitch)
98. A Woman of Substance (Barbara Taylor Bradford)
99. The Celestine Prophecy (James Redfield)
100. Ulysses (James Joyce)

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Since I moved into my place in October, there has been one thing that has bothered me about it. No, not the fact that there are hardly any electrical outlets. No, not the heavy traffic outside. It’s my bathroom sink.

The sink’s basin was completely corroded. At some point in the past, a former resident poured something in the sink and let it sit. The problem was that the chemicals they used ate away at the porcelain, leaving it pocked and gross. No matter what I did or how I cleaned the sink, it always looked disgusting.

Here, see for yourself:


This picture doesn’t even show how bad the corrosion was, but it gives some idea. When the management company who was leasing my duplex told me they were going to raise the rent $150 a month from what my friends (the previous tenants) had paid, one of my conditions for moving in was that they replace the sink. It only took 6 months, but finally, the plumbing company called me to schedule an appointment to replace the sink.

But of course, nothing could go smoothly. Over spring break a plumber came out to “assess” the sink. He determined that yes, the sink was completely corroded, probably because someone put draino or something in it for too long. Yeah, I could’ve told you that, so do you have a sink in your truck that you’re going to install? No dice. He said they’d have to schedule another appointment in order to install a sink, and that it would take about 3 weeks to order one. 3 WEEKS?!@!@ I wasn’t going to wait that long.

So I wrote a long email to the management company explaining that this had gone on long enough. The next day, one of their employees came by with a pedestal sink to install in the bathroom! I’ve never been so happy about a sink in my life.

An appointment had been scheduled for another plumber to come and install this new sink.

The plumber didn’t end up leaving my house until 9pm (he got there at 5:30)! There was some confusion about the faucet — the sink that the management company bought didn’t come with a faucet and my old one was ugly and ancient, so I didn’t want it on the nice, new sink. I emailed and called the management company, with no response. So, I called the plumbing company, and they said they weren’t sure. I was so afraid that the plumber would arrive and then have to leave because there was no faucet. Luckily, his supervisor had a faucet on his truck, so he came by and brought it.

The plumber who came to install it was a nice enough guy, but a little strange. He told me he lived in the mountains and that his girlfriend had burned down his bedroom with candles. (Sad, to be sure, but I wasn’t sure why he felt he needed to tell me this info). He also told me that he used to be the supervisor but that he decided to go back to hourly because he could make more. Oh, and that his son was moving to a new school because all of the kids at his old school picked on him. (Again, not sure why he’s telling me this, but that’s ok, whatever he needs to do to pass the time and install the sink).

As he was finishing up, he casually mentioned that he had spent some time in jail. Oh, great, I thought to myself, I’m really glad he didn’t mention this fact at the beginning of the evening. He went on to explain the circumstances of his arrest and that he was innocent, of course. At this point I kept thinking, just get the hell out of my house so that I can admire my new, beautiful sink.

Quite an improvement, no?


I need to paint the bathroom. The wall behind the sink where the old sink was is all unpainted and in need of some serious TLC. I needed to repaint the bathroom anyway, though. My dad said he’d be happy to help me this summer. I think I’m going to find a new blue for the walls. The current color has a bit too much gray in it for my taste.

I’m also thinking of painting my bedroom a completely different color — not sure what yet. I want to figure out what type of duvet I want and then figure out colors. Right now it’s a plain white, which is very clean-looking, but it’s getting a bit boring.

Plus the kitchen… so I guess it’s going to be a painting party this summer!

This whole incident with the sink and the fact that my entire mood changed once it was installed really shows the value and pride I take in knowing my home looks nice. I think it has something to do with my aesthetic sensibilities, and maybe just a bit because I’m a Cancer. Probably a lot to do with the fact that my mom is an amazing decorator and my parents’ house looks like it should be in magazines.

I’m very excited to think of other things I can improve and decorate in this place. Since I moved in, I haven’t given much time or attention to making it look really nice. Sure, I put a few pictures on the wall and bought some new towels, but I have been longing to really make it look nice.

Then I’ll be able to have some people over and truly start enjoying this place!

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I had a week off from work, and even though I didn’t get through everything on my To Do list, I am feeling really good about all that got accomplished.

One of the main things I’m proud of is that I’ve fully incorporated Weight Watchers (WW) into my daily routine. They always say that it’s not a diet, it’s a lifestyle, and I think I’ve finally gotten that in my head and in my actions. I even made two “from scratch” dinners for myself! I spent a lot of time (probably too much time) on the WW message boards. Since I’m an online-only member this time, I look to the boards for the inspiration that I would normally get in the meetings. The number of people who are regulars on the 100+ lbs to lose board is really impressive. They are all struggling with the same issues I am, and so many of them have had tremendous success. I especially like seeing their progress pictures on their personal websites. I’m sure eventually I’ll do the same thing, but for now, I this blog is enough for me to maintain and update.

I also got myself into somewhat of a workout routine. I didn’t go as often as I had hoped, but I did go a few times, which is good. I’m really glad about what I did on Friday. I was supposed to go walking at a local track with DRMK, but she had to take a rain check. I had a hair appt. at 4pm, and so I went to the track afterwards. I began walking around the track, and my legs got major cramps – both in my calves and shins. I never experienced anything like it before, but I guess it shows how out of shape I am. I tried doing more stretches mid-way through my walk, but that seemed to aggravate the situation. I only made it 2 times around the track (1/2 a mile) before I had to stop. My legs literally couldn’t take anymore. Now normally I would’ve just called it a day, but I wanted to workout. Plus, I had my iPod loaded up with some great workout tunes, and I was ready to get my fitness on. So, I drove to 24 Hour Fitness and did 30 minutes on the elliptical machine. No cramps, and no problems. I felt really good about going to the gym after my failed attempt at walking outdoors. It shows some fitness progress on my part, which is huge. I also ordered a Core Ball dvd that CTLB had suggested. She bought hers about 6 months ago, and everytime she works out to it, she always says she feels sore muscles the next day. I remember that when I was working out with my trainer and he had me do the core exercises, I always felt it, too. I know I could do the core ball stuff at the gym, but the positions you have to get into are a bit embarrassing at my size. I figure that having it at home will give me the perfect way to do the exercises that I know are good for building strength and tightening core muscles. Plus, it takes away any “embarrassment” excuses. I’m going to keeping trying to get my workouts in, but I’ll really be able to set up and stick to a routine in mid-June. I really can’t wait.

Today I spent most of the day organizing my closet, which had somehow spilled out onto my bedroom floor and bed. I’m not sure why those clothes keep jumping out of the closet that way!! Putting everything back on hangers (or in the laundry) made me feel organized and ready for work tomorrow. Or, as ready as I’m going to be. Loads of laundry are currently spinning in the washer and dryer, and I’m actually folding them right away, instead of the usual mode of putting them on the bed and hoping that they somehow fold themselves. I love doing the laundry, you see, it’s just the folding and hanging up of the clothes that I hate.

I still have some work to do tonight, so I should get going, but it’s the nicest feeling in the world to feel like things are all in their place. Organizing my house helps me feel in control of my life. And what a great feeling it is.

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A Fat Rant

A Fat Rant

Joy Nash is saying so many great things in this video. She is the voice for millions of fat people (especially women) who feel less than… less than perfect, less than pretty, less than confident, and mostly less than human.

I love the part where she says that she uses being fat as an excuse for lots of things. While I don’t think I do that in most aspects of my life, I am guilty of it when it comes to dating. I think that most guys don’t look at me twice because of my size. While that is probably true in lots of cases, I’m sure that my bold personality and over-the-top manner are the reasons some guys aren’t into me. And you know what, I’m ok with that.

I know so many people (myself included) who are putting off fully living their lives until they get thin. I absolutely will not get into a bathing suit at my size. I simply don’t have the courage. I think it’s time to start living in the moment and not putting things off until “I get thin.” Which is not to say that I’ll be donning a bathing suit any time soon, cuz that isn’t going to happen, but I should give more physical activities (like running ) a try.

Now, this in no way means that I’m going to give up on my quest to lose weight, because I’m not. My mind is made up, and even if what she says is true and 98% of the people who lose 75lbs or more end up gaining it back, I’m going to be in the 2% that doesn’t. It’s all about changing your attitude and lifestyle. I want to be slim too much to let anything discourage me. This video is just a good reminder that I should love who I am now, while I’m working to become a better me for tomorrow.

Please watch this video!

P.S. – It should be noted that Joy Nash is not the same Joy who is the author of I’ve Got a Crush on…Me! Two Joys mentioned in one day – didn’t want to cause any confusion. 🙂

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